You get through it

Battered and bruised, you get through it.
Small victories privately celebrated "I did not think of him for an hour"
"I laughed at a joke"

Listening to and really hearing the conversations around you.

Pride in not being asked how you are doing, because your recovery shows.
Wearing makeup to look pretty, not because you fear you may run into him.

Determination to make better choices.
Ceasing to wonder why and just accepting that it is, what it is.

Your thinking changes....... to wondering why you ever tolerated, or thought you had to tolerate those things that hurt you, those things that made you feel less than worthy, less than honored.
Less than loved. You start looking forward to loving again because this time, you will know the signs to look for, this time you will be a success. Because something inside simply will not allow you to be treated as inferior.

Feeling a strange sense of pity for the man who thought he could do better. Then a strange sense of relief that you are not with that man who is so dumb.

It all changes, just give it time and be kind to you. Take care of you.