The Breakup

What now? I can predict you will spend the new several weeks, if not months trying to figure out WHY this happened. Why he decided you were not long term or why he left you for the bimbo at the bar, or decided to try again with his ex. The truth is you will never know exactly why no matter how many psychics you call. Even asking him will not answer your question. You would not accept the answer anyhow if he had just one reason, there are normally dozens of reasons. So get used to not knowing WHY.

The next few weeks will be hard. Do not make the mistake of hooking up with his friend to get even or seek validation, in fact his best friends are off limits now. No calling to ask how they are, they all know what you really want to ask is "How is HE, is he missing me or seeing anyone else?" Any forms of stalking (hacking emails, hacking cell phones, hiding in bushes, calling his family or friends, driving by his house or job, hacking his credit card to see what he is spending) and yes I have heard all of these and more have to stop. Why? Because the end result is just more pain. Knowing he spent $128 dollars on a dinner Saturday night will just hurt. In fact all of it just prolongs the hurt. Why would anyone want to do that? Everyone says they have a right to know. No you do not have that right. It is wrong. Legally, emotionally, spiritually wrong to invade another persons privacy.